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There are a wide variety of coaching models out there, and certain ones work for certain individuals.
I’ve distinguished the generalized differences between coaches, therapists, and consultants as follows (remember, these are generalizations and often overlaps occur):
Coach
Coaching is typically in an equal partnership relationship between a client and a coach – the coach is responsible for motivating and empowering the client to achieve their desired goals and outcomes. Coaching also operates from the perspective that the client has all the resources inside of them – they just need to be brought to the surface.
Therapist
Therapy involves a relationship between a therapist and a patient in which the therapist is expected to diagnose problems and relieve symptoms. Traditionally, a therapist is outside the outside of the problem and the relationship is set up so that the therapist has the resources that the patient needs.
Consultant
Consulting is a relationship in which an expert is brought in to give advice and tell others what to do based on his or her expertise.
Non-Linear Life Coaching
It occurred to me that my coaching practice rarely involves timelines and goal setting. I have found that goal setting doesn’t seem to work for most people. Additionally, the further out a goal is supposed to take place, the more chaotic and unpredictable achievement becomes. After all, a goal is created in the present moment with the resources available at that time. Change is inevitable and often people find that what they thought they wanted no long is motivational enough to move them toward achieving a specific goal.
End State Energy
There is something to be said about the outcome of a goal when it is achieved. Sure, there is likely an obvious result – at times tangible, at times intangible. But beyond the result, there is something else…
An emotion! Or, 2 or 3 or 4 or more…
I believe that emotions are the real drivers behind our actions. E-motion; often referred to as energy-in-motion. From an NLP perspective, I’d venture a guess that you’re more likely to stay on track with a goal (or not even necesarily need to create certain goals) when you are riding high in-state of the end-state energy.
This is where I begin with clients. If you really want to achieve a specific goal, you can make a timeline and set objectives and try to drive yourself toward achieving it and/or away from failing.
Or… You can learn how create triggers and anchors in your environment so that as you are being pulled toward your goal you are experiencing the emotions that are the underlying reason for your actions. Being irresistibly propelled toward your goals without any effort sure beats struggling to stay on task with your objectives and desperately trying to meet your timeline.
There are important things to do in life. Some can be put off for a little while and others require immediate attention. By learning how to harness your emotional states you can find great stores of energy waiting to be put in motion.
If you find yourself curious to know how Ericksonian hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) can help you move toward what you want to experience in all things health, wealth, and relationships then take a moment and schedule a session with me or join my Coaching Gym.
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